Words with which our friends offend Gays without realizing it

Words with which our friends offend Gays without realizing it
By: Francisco "El Jimagua" Cartagena Méndez
Twitter: @eljimagua

If you belong to the LGBTT Community it is necessary to understand the importance of educating our friends and family about sexual diversity. Many times people express themselves to our person incorrectly. Below I present several words and phrases that commonly make us and that, certainly can offend us or make very uncomfortable (as).
Below I present several words and phrases that commonly make us and that, certainly can offend us or make very uncomfortable (as).
"He is gay, but he is good and hardworking" - This comment is offensive and incorrect. As if being gay were something bad and justify talking to us.
As if being gay were something bad and justify talking to us.
"I know you're gay, you can be whatever you are, but you're my friend" - as if being gay were something bad, and unconsciously justify their friendship with us. The truth is that being gay is not bad, it is not sin, much less immoral.

The truth is that being gay is not bad, it is not sin, much less immoral.
"I have friends like you" - aja, so how? - Gay friends? - and what is the problem, you have friends or friends and period. There is no need to be reminded that we are gay, we already know that!  

What is the man and what is the woman? - this expression is so absurd and unnecessary. In a relationship between gays, the two men, as in a lesbian, both are women. There are different sexual roles, which have nothing to do with the sex of a person. Educate them!
"I have a friend duck" "I have fag friends" - A total lack of respect. We do not have gays we do not have pens It is important that you correct them as many times as necessary to refer to homosexuals.
"It's just that if I go out with you, you're a teenager that I'm gay" - this comment denotes who they do great insecurity. If our heterosexual friend is sure to be who he is, he should not be afraid to share with homosexual people.
"If you're going to meet a boy, be careful, protect yourself" - as if all gays were going to have sex the first day or as if we were the only ones at risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Heterosexuals have the same risk as us and should be responsible and protected in the same way.
The people of the LGBTT community are human beings who deserve our respect for our human dignity. I have to make the observation that this education on sexual diversity includes the people that the same community that sees well that the user comments derogatory and nicknames to refer to us (as).
The day will come when no one has to justify talking or sharing with gay people, meanwhile, it is our obligation to continue educating and demanding respect towards our sexual orientations.
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Sexuality in Old Age and the Gay Elderly

Sexuality in Old Age and the Gay Elderly
By: Francisco "El Jimagua" Cartagena Méndez
Writer and Human Rights Activist
President ASI Foundation
Twitter: @eljimagua

Our elders fall in love and feel sexual desires. Sexuality has been present throughout the history of the human being. It is known that we are sexual beings, however there are myths and beliefs that have taken root in our societies. This has created various stigmas about the sexual act and its protagonists, whether they are heterosexual couples or belonging to the LGBTT community.

Sexuality in the population over 60 years of age, is a subject little discussed and researched, so there are prejudices and myths that the elderly have no desire or sexual ability. This is totally wrong, since sexuality in old age exists and its practice will depend on various factors and the capacity of each person individually. [pullquote] Sexuality in the population over 60 years of age, is a subject that is little discussed and researched, which is why there are prejudices and myths that elderly people do not possess sexual desire or capacity.

Orihuela, Gómez & Fumero (2009) indicate that the cessation of sexual activity is not a chronological event, but depends on factors such as the state of health and the degree of physical and mental disability and the frequency and quality of sexual relations previous The affective situation and quality of the relationship with the couple and with other people and the health crisis are also determining factors.

In this regard, Pérez explains (2008) that people can not be fragmented in certain periods of existence, they are born and reach the end of their lives as sexual beings. Human sexuality is a sociocultural phenomenon that is influenced by the quality of interpersonal relationships, the context in which we live and by the integration we have made of the lived experiences.

Therefore, sexual pleasure is a desirable and valid experience for older adults because it generates great well-being and is part of a natural process of the human being. In the third age there is all kinds of affection and sexual expression, despite the belief that elderly people are not able to enjoy sex.Discrimination against gay seniors is another factor that can interfere with a natural sexuality in the elderly. Many gays of the third age are pushed to the solitude, or separated of their pairs by reasons of legal nature or by widowhood.

It should be added that many gay elders are pushed back into the closet and discriminated against by other younger gays, which is why sexuality becomes a bit more conflictive, due to the current discrimination in our societies. 

Elderly discrimination / Gays is another factor that can interfere with a natural sexuality in the elderly. Many gays of the third age are pushed into solitude, or separated from their partners for reasons of legal nature or for widowhood. 

Aging should not be synonymous with weakness, discrimination or prejudice. Our seniors are people who have regularly devoted a lifetime to the workforce and family, so it is important to respect them, keep them company and not discriminate against them.

The issue of sexuality in the human being is complex and becomes a problem when it is not addressed from the mental opening, away from prejudice and having a genuine interest in acquiring the necessary knowledge, allowing us to have a full sexuality, pleasant and remote of shameOlder people, far from constituting a homogenous collective in what refers to sexuality, are still sexual beings, with desires and needs related to their own sexuality, which they should enjoy without any difficulty.  

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Family and homoheterosexuality

Family and homoheterosexuality
By: Francisco "El Jimagua" Cartagena Méndez
Writer and Human Rights Activist
President ASI Foundation
Twitter: @eljimagua

She was a lesbian, her heart knew it, but her fear made her marry a man and have children. She had a beautiful family that she loved, but his instinct and identity were revealed against his homoheterosexuality, and one night he had to meet that other girl, as free as the wind, libertarian of his self-confinement.

When sexual identities are condemned, pointed out and discriminated against, they find no other option than to live a double life. It can be your reality, that of your parents, your children (as) or friends (as).

The term homoheterosexuality refers to heterosexual marriage consummated by hidden homosexuality in one of their spouses. In childhood most homosexuals, lesbians, transsexuals or transgenders, we suffer a social metamorphosis, which changes our real identity, by heterosexuality. We are what others want to see, but our heart detests capacity, a lie.

Being bisexual or homo-heterosexual is not the same. The bisexual person feels a genuine attraction for people of the same sex and the opposite. The homoheterosexual person feels attracted to people of the same sex but feels obligated to have a "public" love relationship with a person of the opposite sex.Some causes of homoheterosexuality are discrimination, the religion that judges homosexuals, homophobia and its consequences, hate crimes, a feeling of self-blame and self-denial in the homosexual itself, as well as media homophobia.

It is not surprising that in Puerto Rico and in the rest of the world, there are thousands of homoheterosexual families, nor that the "traditional family" is not already the same as it was two decades ago. The definition of family accepts that this social structure undergoes continuous changes that arise from different historical processes and social contexts.

Today's society is characterized by a diversity of family structures, such as nuclear ones; composed by the father, the mother and their children, biological or adopted.The nuclear series; of nuclear nature but a member of the couple or both were previously married and bring the children of the previous family to the new union. On the other hand, there are single mothers and homosexual families.

All these factors are interrelated and impact the family, which responds by undergoing modifications and adopting new ways to be tempered to new times.

Other factors that have effects on society in general are divorces, racism, classism, sexism, homophobia, processes of social exclusion, discrimination, consumerism and poverty.These transformations and the changes that occur in response to new trends in the family can not be ignored by the state. A state that adjusts its policy to new trends does so equitably, for no reason excludes any representative reality of current families.

For this reason, we must accept the diversity of family structures and consider the desirability of redefining the term family, as well as being sensitive to family structures that are socially disadvantaged and that require greater support by the state, such as single mothers, the elderly and the elderly. same-sex couples.

Homoheterosexuals, like homosexuals, are part of a traditional family nucleus, but we represent that hidden reality of homosexuality. Reality that needs an opening to the recognition that we are human beings and as such we deserve equal rights.

My family, like millions of other diverse families, we feel abandoned and discriminated against by governments that have not yet given way to equity. To send COMMENTS: eljimagua@live.com

The Nature of Homosexuality

By: Francisco "El Jimagua" Cartagena Méndez
Writer and Human Rights Activist
President ASI Foundation
Twitter: @eljimagua

Gay people and the LGBTT community have always existed. We have known about homosexuals in old stories and war stories, in fairy tales and in historical stories. We can mention Da Vinci, Alejandro Magno, or perhaps Federico García Lorca and his love for Salvador Dalí. We see them personified in theatrical comedies.

The reality is that being gay is a reality of life; It is something totally natural, another sign that human beings are totally sexual and diverse. In my thirty-one springs I have observed how many men hide their true human nature. They disguise themselves as heterosexual males or females, ignoring any possibility of discovering their true sexual instinct.

Sadly, millions of people in the world have been forced (either by fear, by habit, by learned machismo, by obligation or by cowardice) not to show who they really are. However, the indifference of a gay man in the closet towards another gay man rests on the connotation of the most absurd fear. We are in the 21st century, the freedom of other gays should not bother someone who lives in the shadows of double life. Instead, he should be an example and give him strength to be as he is.Being gay is being yourself. Both men and women around the planet earth want people of the same sex. In all civilizations, cultures and religions, homosexuality is a reality. This very real fact must make us ask the following; How human beings of different ideologies and cultures are able to have feelings and desires for people of the same sex? ... the answer is simple; because it is something totally real and natural of humanity.

In all the archaeological finds that seek to understand the history of humanity, there are present stories of love between people of the same sex. The reason for this is one, since there have always been people who feel sexual and physical desire and affection (love) for people of the same sex.The question that arises before the above is; Why then have homosexuals faced so much discrimination, persecution, hatred, assault and murder against them? The answer is divided in two; 1) the extremist religious ideology and 2) the domain of free thought.

Religious visionaries found in human sexuality, an opportunity to firstly condemn the human being, and second, to dominate him. Conviction precedes the domain of free thought and therefore dominates free sexuality. Uneasiness arises; why in more than 450 species of animals, homosexuality is a reality. A sexuality that is not persecuted, except in human beings of course.

The reason is simple, because the animals (those that are not human) do not have the reasoning by which, the persuasion and the cognitive domain is achieved. However, it is really unknown, if in the animal world (beyond humans) it is possible that there is discrimination by those animals that prefer to copulate between other animals of the same sex.

Being gay is identical to being heterosexual. Gay love and heterosexual love are marked by the same situations. The strangeness, the confidence or the distrust, the necessity and the custom, the desire and sexual appetite, the curiosity, the affection, the hug, the copulate, the kiss. All actions of affection and sexuality between human beings.

For many and for many, everything described above is well seen between couples of the opposite sex (because of the need for human procreation and for the divine or the contemporary deities). However, it is no less true that all human feelings (desire, strangeness, love, love, affection, sexual desire, custom, among others) are present in the lives of people or homosexual couples.

An important issue of homosexuality is that in a certain way, we contribute to not increase human overpopulation. Although many gay people (both men and women) have sons or daughters; the vast majority have not procreated. The overpopulation has negative effects for any country and this has been evident in numerous news headlines and various studies, as happens in China, which have a policy of procreation.

I dare to bet that this writing reflects, without a doubt for my own challenge, a new opportunity to continue writing and discovering new horizons about the diversity of the human being. You can judge me, but the idea is already on the table. To a good listener, only a reliable kiss between two people of the same sex is enough.

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